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Getting back together with your ex after a breakup can seem to be thoroughly hopeless. You aren't the only person who has felt this way but you need to know that getting her back is very doable. It is very commonplace for couples to get together again after a difficult breakup. So calm down, lose the pessimism, and take some action. 1.) Men are supposed to be self assured and strong in our culture. They're the doers, they're expected to go out into the world and make it their own. Women intuitively expect this. The issue of sensitivity in men has been the subject of much discussion. Women will find sensitivity appealing if it is combined with self-assurance and strength. Any behavior that is clingy or needy will be seen as a weakness. These expressions of desperation and panic shouldn't be confused with sensitivity. She will see you more as a child than as a man. 2) You shouldn't try to make things right with her immediately after the breakup. Relationship repair cannot be achieved overnight. Let things cool down between you for about 30 days. It is also good if the breakup happened in a mature and non threatening way. Both of you need the time to get rational and to get things into perspective. You have to understand why the breakup occurred before any lines of communication can be opened up. 3.) You should not expect, ask, or demand any admission of wrong doing from your ex. Always remind yourself that the burden is on you, she didn't approach you about getting back together. Any demands on your part will seem hostile and will drive her away. She may or may not own up to any fault but that's up to her. You have to understand that admission of fault should not involve a petty trade of blame. 4.) Start a self improvement program. The improvement should be internal as well as external. Take off those extra pounds, put some effort into coordinating your wardrobe, and do whatever else that needs improvement. This is also the time to recognize and correct personal faults that contributed to the breakup. What you do right after a breakup with your girl can decide how to difficult getting back with her will be. Time it incorrectly or bring up the wrong subject with her and you'll have made it very hard if not impossible to get her back. Use your head and make an effort to plan out what you will do.
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